My brother,a diagnosed alcoholic, has hand tremors which he says is Parkinsons Disease. True?
Question by Pam H: My brother,a diagnosed alcoholic, has hand tremors which he says is Parkinsons Disease. True?
He takes no medication and,unfortunately, has no intention of stopping his drinking. This entire scenario has recently become more serious since my Mom (who always referred to AA as a “group of religious fanatics”, stating more than once, he “didn’t NEED to go to AA because he wasn’t an alcoholic”) passed 3mos. ago. He has received SSDisability for 10 years based on a diagnosis of “mental illness”; and my mother’s ability (and influence being a politician) finding a psychiatrist who would say this and the fact he was getting a divorce, moving back to my parents, and hadn’t worked in years! My mother and I parented in very different ways, but I still loved her; I just didn’t understand her.In addition to his alcoholism he is also a pathological liar and actually collected SSDisability AND worked a full-time job for 3 yrs…until he was caught. Of course my Mom blamed the guy at SS who “lied” to my brother…oh, well.
Before she entered the hospital for surgery, Mom appointed my twin brothers, the youngest brothers, as co-executors. I’m the oldest and only daughter, but my Mom was a feminist who was a chauvinist and it really didn’t matter to me anyway…until now. My brother(the one with the drinking problem) in the meantime, had found someone on the internet, remarried and, of course, both he and his wife moved in with my parents. Previously to Mom going to the hospital, she signed over the house and $ 60,000 to my brother already living there (let’s call him “g” from now on). G and his wife, who took EXCELLENT care of Dad, paid the house taxes, insurance, utilities, fuel oil and maintenance bills out of the $ 60,000. Due to a medical snafu, Mom never returned home and spent the next 3 yrs in a nursing home; Dad, already suffering from dementia, was put into the same nursing home and died a year TO THE DAY before my Mom. Now enter my brothers, the co-executors.
My Mom died in March, but the twin who was really handling things (the other twin was in court-ordered rehab for heroin addiction) had “g” sign over the house and the remaining $ 43,000 to HIMSELF, saying how it was done to hide Mom’s assets from the State (not a very good story considering these “assets” hadn’t been in my Mom’s name for almost 3 years); “g” at the time of the funeral STILL couldn’t understand why he “didn’t have the key to Mom’s house anymore”!! He had no idea he had even SIGNED OVER the house and money and, conveniently, never requested or was given a copy of what he signed.
The atty. supposedly representing the estate, actually represented the co-executors (or in this case the one executor who was orchestrating this scenario). Mom’s will stated the house, possessions, and any monies were to be split between the 4 children; with $ 1000 to be given to each of the 4 grandchildren. I started to smell a rat and called the atty. who stated there “really wasn’t any estate left except for the possessions since “g” “had signed over the house and the monies ($ 43,000) to Mr. co-Executor as a personal GIFT!!” Then he told me the reason being to protect “g’s” “share of the estate for his future NURSING CARE!!” I asked “what nursing care?”, and was told, “treatment for his Parkinson’s Disease which of course, is a degenerative disease.”. I figure either this atty is the most gullible atty around OR…he’s in on it and will get a percentage of this “nursing care” money!!
So there ya have it folks…sorry it took so long, but explaining Dysfunctional Families is not the fastest or easiest thing to do. For those who have hung in there with me…you have my sincere gratitude and blessings. I already know all this crap that went down can be legally challenged ;I’ve been looking for an attorney who will take the case on contingency which, since there is no estate anymore and I don’t have $ 2500 to put down as a retainer, has proved to be impossible, but I will continue with the quest. I can’t exactly BRING “g” to the doctor, because it will open up the whole can of worms with the SSDIS thing and he’s already been caught for fraud once! So if anyone has any insight into this thing, please bring it on!!! I’m completely open to suggestions…ANY suggestions. Thanks.
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Answer by Sal Paradise
I don’t want to read everything you wrote but I will still answer your question.
I used to be an alcoholic and had hand tremors just like your brother. The people I used to work with noticed it and some of them thought that it was Parkinsons Disease. It wasn’t. Your brother is sick but not with Parkinsons. It’s bullsh*t.
Once he stops drinking for a month or two the tremors will stop.
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My dad is an alcoholic and drinks a case of beer a day, and his hands tremble and I used to think he was just shaky but no, it’s because he drinks. And Parkinsons affects the whole body not just the hands.
Your initial question appeared to be whether your alcoholic brother’s had tremors were Parkinson’s disease or the result of chronic alcoholism. Since no other information was provided, that would be difficult to answer.
I gather that your second question is how to again enable your alcoholic brother to prevail over the the twin who is not a heroin addict after apparently signing papers in which some misrepresentation or out and out fraud had been perpetrated.
The wife of G could actually assist in challenging the estate if the probate has not already been closed. If the couple was successful in managing the household affairs for 3 years, they should also be able to talk to a prosecutor about filing criminal charges against the evil twin since it was obvious that it was never the intention of your mother or father to gift all of their remaining assets to someone who had not taken part in their care during that 3 year period.
If the money was to be returned to the estate upon the death of your mother, than all four of you should share equally as per the terms of the will and it is also possible that evil twin’s attorney is also eligible for criminal charges or at least having a complaint filed with your local bar association.
I’d begin with the prosecutor’s office. They may make logical suggestions if they don’t find enough for a criminal case.