Tell me what u think and how would u help me make it better i am not finished

Everyone knows about Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar, and anxiety disorder, but does anyone know what Borderline Personality Disorder is about? It is one of the most common disorders in our society. Almost 10 million Americans or more may be affected by BPD. Out of the 10 million 75% are women. People all over the world suffer and some to this day, don’t know what they are suffering from. It is a relatively new disorder so it might be unknown to general population. Though the disorder was first defined in the 1930′s, it was only in the 1970′s that people began seeking therapy for the disorder. In the 1980′s BPD was included in the American Psychiatric Association Diagnostic manual, third edition, called the DSM-III, the diagnostic ‘bible” of the psychiatric profession. What is Borderline Personality Disorder, how can we recognize a person with Borderline Personality disorder and how can it be treated? There is a famous quote written by Thomas Sydenham, who was 1700s century English physician, ‘’ They love without measure those whom they will hate without reason.’’
Border line personality has few causes. It can be triggered, by severe environmental conditions, strict family back round and it can also be hereditary. Today’s society requires people to meet its expectations. If a family is strict in its upbringing the pressure becomes ten times harder. ‘’ Smart remarks at home were unthinkable. Authority reigned there. Control. Express an inappropriate emotion, expect a slap’’ (Rayland 10).A vulnerable personality might break under such pressure that is thrown at them resulting in a lot of different disorders. One of these disorders is Borderline Personality disorder. People with BDP suffer their whole life and they always say that world is very harsh and scary place.
It’s hard to live with Borderline Personality Disorder because it can trigger other maladies. BPD can have or has other disorders that can camouflage or contribute to the other disorder like depression, alcoholism or anorexia. ‘’ The bacon, which had been tucked tightly in my cheeks, flew directly into the toilet. The perfect solution. He thought he won’’ ( Kreisman 23). No one knows whether the personality disorder contributed or other disorders contributed to the personality disorder. It’s also stress that can contribute to the predisposition personality. It can be that under the stress borderline personality can turn to drugs, or develop an eating disorder, or even become severely depressed. It’s hard for people who have problems finding out that they have more problems in their life than they can handle.
One of the hardest tasks is defining BPD because its very similar to other disorders, but DSM- III- R lists eight symptoms that must be present for diagnosis. Those five symptoms include unstable relationships, impulsiveness in behavior, severe mood shifts, inappropriate displays of anger that are frequent, suicidal threats, lack of sense of identity , feeling of emptiness or boredom, and avoidance of abandonment.

When I said that there is never enough time, it was taken the wrong way. It’s just that I love you and would like to spend more time with you, but sometimes I know that’s not possible. But I do feel that 1 day a week is something that no relationship can survive on. And it wasn’t either one of our faults for that. It’s almost impossible when I’m working 3rd shift. But that’s not something that’s set in stone. I am hoping that another day position comes available again.
Then on Fridays I was always drunk by the time you got home which made me not want to go home and chill, which is what I should’ve done in the first place. And I enjoy that more now than ever. But alcoholics are selfish people who only think of themselves and their fun. Then on Saturday I’d be suffering the hangover which made it hard for me to be a happy person because i was feeling miserable. Then back to the ritual work week on Sunday. So you can see where this didn’t leave much time, and that was NOT your fault. Billy I blame myself for that one. And now that i’m sober, I can clearly see what a fool I was and I’m truly sorry for putting you through that. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Alcoholism is very disturbing and I know I can never get you to fully understand it, but I do hope that you see me for the person I am now and not the person I was when I was sick. That person needs to be laid to rest because that was not me. I will never get through my sobriety if the past keeps getting brought up. And it’s been even harder when I’m dealing with emotions that I used to drowned out coupled by our separation. And yes there still may be a few lingering things that you didn’t deal with that I still may do. But Billy that’s where I need you to understand that I’m still trying to deal with this stuff and until I get the emotions under control, there are going to be repeated things. And I do still get my bouts of depression but it’s mostly because I’m miserable without you and not being able to share life with you. It’s also frustrating to not be given the chance to show the better changes. And you won’t enjoy them either if you don’t let go of the past. It just makes a person feel hopeless sometimes, ya know.
Billy, I wasn’t unhappy with you and getting more unhappy when you tried harder. You did everything right, but I was a sick alcoholic who wouldn’t have cared more no matter what you did. So please don’t beat yourself up for the effort. Now I can say thank you for being you because I never said that (and should have). That’s why I fell in love with you is because you treated me better than anyone ever has. And you should’ve been shown more appreciation for that. And I do appreciate everything that you’ve done.
Healthy relationships do have disagreements. And it’s not fair to tell someone how they should feel. It would’ve been better if our relationship came first before a few measly differences and misunderstandings. I know that things should’ve been expressed differently but they should’ve been dealt with too. It’s just not realistic to think that people are going to agree on everything. And it’s no reason for a relationship to end.
We had life plans. That’s where communication comes in. Things aren’t set in stone. If a discussion would’ve been brought on, we could’ve came to a reasonable decision that we both could live with. So I have to work, big deal. Nothing any different than I’m doin now. Nothing matters Billy as long as I’m with you and sharing life. I wish it wouldn’t have scared you to discuss these things with me. But I do realize and understand now that I was probably not the most negotiating person because alcoholics are the most selfish people. So once again, I can only apologize for making things hard on you. If I could take it all back, I would in a heartbeat. But unfortunately I can’t. There’s only moving forward.
All I want is open arms and an open heart to really show you the person I am. The person who was buried beneath the booze. The person that loves you more than anything.

I am six months sober, so I’ve cleaned my act up and am a better person now. He says he still loves me and when we hang out things are great. So I just need to back off a while to give him time to miss me?

has anyone ever stopped drinking after drinking 1 to 3 drinks a day? Did you experience any symptoms of withdrawal? For me, things are louder for some reason, anyone else experience this?

My husband and I separated 4 years ago. He is a drug/alcohol abuser. I have had custody and have supported my kids myself working full time(with some help from my family). I got divorced from him back in December. I was awarded custody and support from him based on the part time minimum wage job he had at the time ($67.00 a week for 3 kids). He has supervised visitation due to drugs/alcohol abuse. Since our divorce he has been in jail and is now in a shelter/rehab. He has seen them about 6 or 7 times for a few hours at a time since our divorce. I have honored visitation when he wasn’t in jail. Should I just give up on him ever paying since he hasn’t in 4 years or should I go after it because everyone thinks he should pay?

I usually drink alcohol on a regular basis in the form of mainly beer and sometimes liquor but I haven’t drank any alcohol today and I’m hot feeling and broke out in a sweat and my chest hurts right where my heart is and it is real tender to the touch right where my heart is and I can feel my heart occasionally palpitating or racing.. what is this?

One of my husband’s work buddies is a very bad drunk. When he starts drinking, he can’t control how much alcohol he consumes and therefore gets black out drunk. This guy is jeoperdizing his woman and his future. He’s very beligerant when he’s drunk and tends to get into fights. I really don’t want to see him get stabbed or have to scrape him off the road and put him in a body bag, (either way I don’t want to put him into a body bag). I’m going to refer him to two inpatient treatment centers in South Dakota (where we live). I’ve tried the shock factor with him. I told him that I will have to scrape him off the road someday and put him in a body bag if he doesn’t stop drinking. That didn’t phase him at all. I really don’t want him hurting himself or someone else. Because of the laws you can’t force someone into treatment without them being referred by police/a hospital for a DUI. How do I get him convinced that he NEEDS help?
He doesn’t need a behavioral (mental) health institution. He’s need a rehab center.

I smoke marijuana daily, and for the past year or so, I would say when I cant find it I pretty much do what ever. I drink a lot of cough syrup, take add pills,pain killers, coke. I feel like I cant find true happiness unless im under the influnce of a drug. I would say I mainly abuse marijuana and alcohol, but like I said if I cant get those I will do when ever. And I can remember starting drugs mainly because it was fun and then it started to be to escape, and now i feel like im not happy from any drug or when im sober. Its I really wanna get high on whatever is there, and then once im high I dont want to be, or drunk or w/e. I feel ashamed or like I shouldent seek treatment, but at the same time I feel like I should before I become physically addicted to the harder drugs I do. I need to hear things from people who have gone through this or have ideas about what I should do. Thank you
I feel so overwellmed I dont even know where to start.
And im manic deppresive, the main reason i even think of treatment or ask these questions is because my mental state is crazy my moods change so much in one day and it use to be months not hours, i dont even know anymore, its i know my fate and theres nothing i can do, but at the same time i want to change it so bad.

Ok so I’m only 23 years old. I have a 13 month old son (who is my world) and I’m divorced. My ex and I were together for 6 years and I finally threw in the towel when I’d tried everything I knew to do to help him with his alcoholism. I still to this day don’t have a problem with people who drink and drink responsibly but people that throw their whole lives away for it–yes, I do have a problem with those people. I’ve moved on and I started dating again and the guy I’m with now is a little younger than me but acts far beyond his age. My question and problem is that through the 6 years I was with my ex…I went through an emotional hell. I would forgive and try to forget all the things he done and gave him chance after chance but nothing I done was ever good enough to make him get help. Now, I guess angry and hurt but wanting to move on and be with someone who realizes what they have and treats me the way that I deserve to be treated…I still feel like I can’t trust him and I’m just waiting for him to screw up so it’ll prove he’s like every other guy. I hate feeling this way and I wish I could just be more open and let it take its course but I feel like I’ve programmed myself to be on defense mode 24-7 for fear of getting hurt again. Does anyone have any decent advice as to what to do about this?

Alcohol Addiction – What is alcoholism?
Alcohol addiction is simply defined as a compulsive need for an intoxicating liquid that is obtained from fermented grain or fruit. These liquids include beer, wine, and other hard liquors.

Alcoholism is present when a person craves alcohol and cannot limit or contain his or her drinking. If someone experiences withdrawal symptoms such as nausea, sweating, shakiness, or anxiety when alcohol consumption has ceased, or if there is a need to drink greater amounts of alcohol in order to feel a high, that person is most likely alcoholic.

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Below is a fictional character in for treatment. MY ASSIGNMENT: I am to compare my treatment plan with those of OTHER substance abuse counselors and compare them, based one the available data from the fictional character below.

What would your general treatment plan look like for this man?
If he had an AXIS II: 301.70 Antisocial Personality Disorder – would that change your approach?

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